Funny how long it takes us to Grow Up. It takes our whole lives doesn't it? I have realized that no matter how old people are (and I've worked with old people all my life) that we are all just children when we are in an area of life that we have never been exposed to. Learning to deal with a new challenge in life is not much different than walking through the door of your kindergarten class on the first day of school. There's always more to learn!
We are reminded that we are still children when we get caught up in emotional waves of concern, fear, overwhelm or feeling a loss of control over our life circumstances.
No matter how old we are we are still just children. If we are blessed we have our parents alive and well for a long time. If we are really blessed we will know how blessed we
are to have our parents alive and well. I am one of them! My parents are doing well and I thank my lucky stars when I look at statistics and when I work everyday with people who are struggling to survive and to live.
I am also well aware that it is just a matter of time and the situation will change. It makes me very thankful for Right Now for what I have, for what we have together as a family.
Look around at all the parents who aren't doing well. All those who struggle with memory loss; dementia. All those who rely on walkers and wheelchairs to get them from one place to another. All those who rely on their adult children to meet their most basic needs on a daily basis.
This Mother's Day (and Father's Day) upcoming, please take a moment to thank your parent for being self-sufficient and healthy. And if they aren't, take a moment to breathe in and think of ways to help them --- and to help yourself to help them. You don't have to do it all.
If you don't know where to start, get yourself a geriatric care manager who can make it all easier for you.