Wednesday, May 21, 2014
Wednesday, May 14, 2014
We are reminded that we are still children when we get caught up in emotional waves of concern, fear, overwhelm or feeling a loss of control over our life circumstances.
No matter how old we are we are still just children. If we are blessed we have our parents alive and well for a long time. If we are really blessed we will know how blessed we are to have our parents alive and well. I am one of them! My parents are doing well and I thank my lucky stars when I look at statistics and when I work everyday with people who are struggling to survive and to live.
I am also well aware that it is just a matter of time and the situation will change. It makes me very thankful for Right Now for what I have, for what we have together as a family.
Look around at all the parents who aren't doing well. All those who struggle with memory loss; dementia. All those who rely on walkers and wheelchairs to get them from one place to another. All those who rely on their adult children to meet their most basic needs on a daily basis.
This Mother's Day (and Father's Day) upcoming, please take a moment to thank your parent for being self-sufficient and healthy. And if they aren't, take a moment to breathe in and think of ways to help them --- and to help yourself to help them. You don't have to do it all.
If you don't know where to start, get yourself a geriatric care manager who can make it all easier for you.
Every day I hear many amazing stories in my line of work! When you work with people and you care about them, you hear what they say with their lips --and with their hearts... and there's ultimately enough fodder for a screenplay! I speak each one in confidence and with the utmost respect. I decided I would start posting them here now and again so others can learn from them too:
Roy and Angela had been dating since high school. Same age, same year - both were now graduating college. On Graduation Day Roy grabbed his diploma in New England, hopped the train and got to Seattle in time to see Angela graduate with honors. She was always such a smart girl! And pretty too! Roy was stalling, however. Angela had been saying for years that she wanted them to marry as soon as they finished college. He loved her, yes, but was he indeed ready for marriage? Children? Career?
|Everett, WA Depot 1900's|
They settled into their seats, their tickets were punched and the train started moving. Angela ruffled through her bag for a book and some magazines for the long ride. Roy was preparing to take a nap. He was a contented man.
As the train picked up speed, she nudged him on the elbow. He turned to her as she handed him the latest issue of the Seattle Times. "Here" she said "there might be something of interest to you." He gladly took the paper with a nod and began to read.
'Of Interest', sure enough! There, on page 3: "Holstein and McFarland to Wed". He did a double-take. Sure enough there was a recent portrait of the two of them, Roy and Angela, taken over the holidays the year before. The article went on to announce that the two would wed in Chicago on the upcoming Saturday. Roy was taken completely by surprise.
Angela had taken it upon herself to make all the arrangements. They were married that Saturday in Chicago and have been happily married for 77 years.
"How can you argue with a woman like that? And she's been telling me what to do ever since!" he says with a smile-- and absolutely no regret.
|Couple Discuss Their Plans|
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